Romancing The Woman

Always be prepared… when she asks “Do you love me?”

If you even hesitate for a second, you’re dead. Don’t hem and haw… just say it - Directly and Honestly… Of course, sincerely. The answers below are not canned messages… they are ad-libbed on the spot.

Here’s the model answer.

Question: Do you Love Me?

Answer: Of course I do… you silly girl. I can’t even count the number of ways that I love you. Let’s see…

I love you enough to pat you to sleep.

I love you enough to rub your belly when you have cramps, even though you’re Dangerous.

I love you enough to cook a steak for you.

I love you to make soup when you’re feeling unwell.

When you’re not looking, I even cleared your garbage bin while you’re asleep.

I love you enough to stay awake while you’re partying somewhere. Just waiting for your safe return.

I love you enough to make conversation with your parents.

I love you enough to humor your baby nephew when he’s bored.

But that only shows that… I’m willing to do things for you. Looking after your nephew and making small chats with your parents do not count.

What matters most of all is just YOU!

I’m happy when you’re happy, smiley, and giggly.

I’m down when something is bothering you, and you tend to snap at almost anything.

I’m just so in Love with you that I just can’t wait to see your face each and every day.

So ends the Q&A session

Giacomo

Women are…

• Inconsistent
• Insecure
• Indecisive
• Intuitive
• Indecent?!?!?

If you’re a woman and reading this. You know I’m not talking about you.

BUT as a man, there’s a lot of inner work to be done. Women are gatherers and nurturers… I’m sure you don’t want to be a baby. They are not hunters like most men are.

YOU…. are a hunter but being a hunter will only add on to a nurturer’s insecurities. That’s what you are. There’s nothing to be ashamed of despite the Feministas.

Speaking of Feministas, if you fight for their cause. You’re pure crap, wolves run together as a pack. Feministas are exclusively she-wolves, if you’re a wolf. You have absolutely no business there. You’re just confused and wanting to be a she-wolf.

What can be done?

FOCUS… focus on yourself. Focus on yourself as a Man. As a hunter, someone who brings home the bacon. Hmmm… I can hear thousands of feministas screaming - Nooooo…. we don’t need any bacon. What the heck!

Be somebody she can look up to. In modern terms, you have to be capable enough to support their lifestyles. What you need to do is to find your True North. Just like the northern star as all men should be. STRONG & CONSTANT.

That’s very attractive to most women. So much so that you might need a broomstick to swat those “flies” away.

WHY? You ask…

That’s because too much attraction is not a good thing.  When you swat flies watch out for your butterfly. Butterflies are lovely creatures. Be kind.

Giacci
- Who’s fallen onto a rotten day. This 2nd day of February 2008.

ps. What are butterflies? Stay tuned.

As promised, here’s part 2 of What’s on her Mind.

For a start - It’s not always about you. So you have to get that egoistic thought out your head. Being romantic is Good but uncontrolled emotions make any good man weak and useless. Yup, I said it.

What’s on her mind is this… You ready?

It’s Bags and Shoes, Hair and Nails, Weight and Pimples. And you thought it’s all about you.

Sometimes, if you’re lucky you may find that she thinks of you often. Whatever it is - don’t bank on it and take it for granted. Women are usually fickle-minded unless provoked. You never ever want to provoke a woman when she’s pensive or busy with work. That’s courting death.

Keep your romantic inclinations to yourself for now. Hide away, go drink beer with your buddies, read this blog.

When their minds are filled with work and the million other things like Bags and Shoes, Hair and Nails, Weight and Pimples… they won’t be receptive to romantic advances. Instead of wasting your ammunition - spend the time away and do things for yourself. It’s better this way because it will be a matter of time - they will come back.

Oh yeah… One last thing, it SUCKS but it’s nothing personal. Take things with a pinch of salt - some times it’s NOT about you. And it’s not about the things you did either… because she has put on some extra pounds. LOL…

Seeya Little Chickadees…

Lots of Love and Emotional Support,
Giacco Chickadee

Love is such a funny and wonderful thing…

Here’s something I’ve read earlier in Chinese but will translate.

A Gong that doesn’t sound when struck, is not a Gong.
A Love that doesn’t devote itself with sacred dedication, is not Love.

To Love, is to be devoted to a higher purpose.
Without any calculative thoughts,
It’s not about money, or
Whose right or wrong,
This proves you have Loved.

The Love of many people are conditional,
They have not Loved.

If Love is to Possess, then
It is a Painful type of Love.
If Love is to Give, then
It is a Love that sets you free.

Love, needs nobody to accept,
Nor anyone to agree with you.

To Love, is to be Devoted.
Even if the other party doesn’t know.

This is a form of breakthrough.

- Master Edward Li

Have you ever wondered why… despite all your hard work in romancing your woman but she’s not responding?

Of course, you have. I’m in that position too many times. The opposite of Love is not Hate. It’s Indifference. That’s when they can’t be bothered with you. They don’t pick up your calls, they don’t even have the decent courtesy to return your calls. Nor reply to your mobile messages.

That’s just SAD…

Before I continue, there’s many possibilities why she’s behaving this way. Perhaps, she busy with work and have too many things on her multi-tasking mind. Before you determine that for yourself… which by the way, is very simple. That is to ask her. If her replies are indifferent.

It’s about time you reflect deeply into what you want in a relationship? Would you want a woman who’s cold and “Indifferent” to you? If you answer YES to me, you’re just a plain liar but that’s all right. She probably has a to-die-for-body that kept your hormones raging. Either that or she has really great boobies… Heh…

So… what if she’s really indifferent and it’s not work nor hormones that’s causing her to behave like this.

Logic would dictate that she’s over you. That’s all about her. But what about you?

• Would you want to continue and hope for a miracle?
• Would you want to look else where, when she digs you?
• Or would you just pretend nothing happened and be the same jolly self?

Which ever choice you pick is really your decision. You can’t force a woman to love you. Probably you did something wrong that made her this way. Time for some self-reflection and change what isn’t right in your life right now.

If you have decided that it’s not you but it’s her who’s creating all these unnecessary issues. Maybe, just maybe it’s time to ask yourself honestly….

Do you deserve somebody better?

Do you? I won’t influence you further because it’s your choice. Comprehendo?

Giacci

ps. Next stop, something jolly. It’s already 1st of February. Aren’t you like planning for Valentines?

pss. I believe that more women read this post then men. They are probably doing some reflecting on their own. Shame on you guys. I’ve just made it tougher for you to please your woman. Lucky for me, I’ve lots more where I’m coming from.

psss. Cheeriozzzz…

pssss. Just realized that I haven’t address what women are thinking. This is just a teaser. Stay tune for part 2.

Dear Readers,

I remembered a time when I wasn’t too sure about myself. That is… I can love a woman so much that it makes me insecure and jealous.

Now, insecurity and jealousy has no place in romancing your woman. It should be STOMP upon as hard as possible and CHUCK out of your life, just like a Good Hearty SNEEZE.

The reasons why are really simple -

When you’re insecure, you are completely unsure of yourself. That just ain’t sexy. Have you ever seen a man brought to tears and to his knees because his woman dumped him? I’m sure you have… be it a close friend, or even yourself. Now now… we are all gentlemen here. We don’t need  to laugh at one another because at one time or another we do have our moments.

I’m not interested in finger-pointing but we have to help one another here. Think of it as a brotherhood of sorts.

WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT IT?

The most important thing is to recognize that you are feeling insecure. Perhaps, she told you that she’s going out with another male friend. It may drive you crazy because some other “guy” is looking at her sweat and groan… it’s perfectly normal, because you love her. BUT if you go off, accusing her of doing things she didn’t do and behave like some spoilt brat - it will only make you lower in her eyes.

Stay Calm… take a few deep breaths. I’m going to tell you one simple fact - if she is to stray away from you. She already would have done so. If she did, then there are only 2 options - to let her go, or to forgive her. That of course, is if she strays. Chances are that it’s only… a normal outing. She will still call you and ask if you’re all right. So stay chilled. Comprehendo?

As for JEALOUSY, that green-eyed monster. Do you know how often jealousy has caused a rift between lovers? You don’t? Now, let’s imagine if you have a woman who really digs you… a little jealousy is nice. It shows that she cares but too much jealousy will only serve to scare you away.

As it is with you, so it is with her.

When you feel that green-eyed monster rearing it’s head. Give that stupid one hard TWHACK on it’s head. Jealousy does not become a Man. You’re the pillar and strength for her, if she doesn’t treasure it. Well… it’s going to hurt for a while… but BELIEVE ME, you shall emerge Free!!!

Whatever it is… whenever you sense insecurity and jealousy arising within you. Stay CALM. Remind yourself constantly that if she’s gone, she’s gone. No powers in the heaven nor the earth can make her stay. That’s the way a woman’s heart works.

The question you have to ask yourself is this -

What’s NEXT?

You’ll be fine.

As always…
Your Giacco !

Today’s lesson is short and brief. I’m sure you tire of reading looooooong 1000 words posts. It’s the weekend… and I’m too lazy to write another thousand words exposition.

Here’s the short and dirty details…

TRAIT #1 - Develop a Quick Wit

Let’s face it. Dimwits are boring… if you’re a guy and think that slow-and-inattentive people are DUMB. Imagine how a lady, in this instance your lady will feel. If you have always been the dimwit in her life. Get off your duff… DO SOMETHING. Dig your ears, so you can hear properly. Watch Comedies, and always have a witty response at hand. Practice voicing your opinions to avoid being seen as a wallflower.

TRAIT #2 -Have a D I S C E R N I N G  EYE

When trait #1 is fully developed or at least competent. It’s up to you as the MAN to apply a discerning eye unto every single situation. Every nuances, sigh, hand gesture, and micro-expression is a clue for you to discern what’s wrong or right with your Lady Love.

Sometimes, you can sense the fear and sense of desperation in her eyes. Don’t be a KLUTZ. Do something. Ask her and listen to her without saying a single word. Don’t be a clown - it will frustrate her. At least try to look attentive. Okay?

TRAIT #3 - Be Thick Skinned

Show no shame when you’re romancing your woman. Chuck the ego and embarassment out the window. If you have to kneel down in front of her in public. Do it. Public opinions are a dime a dozen. A nickel will get you half a dozen - all of which you don’t need.

What you need is to make her feel happy. You have to be totally shameless about it. For eg. If she has blisters on her feet. Get plasters, kneel down in front of her and help her plaster them blisters. She may be embarassed but you little grasshoppers should never fear embarassment. She’ll love you to teeny weeny bits.

Enuff Said…

Chickadee…dooooo….dahhh….

ps. The weekend is here and Valentine’s is round the corner.

I’ve been listening to some blues music… Yeah! The number goes like this…

“Before you accuse me,
Take a look at yourself,
You say I’m spending my money on other women,
You’ve been taking money from someone else.”

How poignant is that? That’s how it is with quite a lot of romance turn bad out there.

They accuse one another but never for a moment stop to take a look at themselves. That’s the topic for today.

Imagine, you sitting there wondering and thinking about your woman.

What is she doing?
What is she up to?
Is she taking money from someone else?

BUT are you spending your money on somebody?

Consider that for a moment. It maybe only talking about money but on a deeper level what are the emotions and feelings involved?

Here’s Giaco’s Quick Tips to being Mindfully Aware and Productive

1) Stop Wasting your Time Thinking and Pondering - DO SOMETHING

That thing is all about being honest with yourself and being sincere to the woman of your life. Don’t go for cheap thrills or YIKES!!! Read books that tell you all the sneaky tactics like - Increase the value of the loot by telling her friends. That’s horribly horribly WRONG.

When you do something - do it out of your heart. Unconditionally and without any hope of reciprocation. Of course, it’s wonderful to have it reciprocated but if you don’t get that. Don’t kill yourself over it.

Decide for yourself IF your thoughts are just wanton musings. Sometimes, musings can make you go crazy. Like they say - The demons are only in your head.

2) Listen More and Talk Less

Most women love a good listener. Someone who doesn’t judge them for what they are saying. Someone who accepts her for who she is and what she stands for. In other words, a supportive man. Now, being supportive doesn’t mean that you have to be her lapdog. Be supportive and be a good listener. At the same time, you have to know who you are, and what you stand for. What’s acceptable and what’s not. Stick by that principle and you’ll be fine.

3) Stay Calm and Collected at All Times

Sometimes, she may something that doesn’t rub you the right way. Maybe she had a bad day at work, maybe she’s having the cramps. They shoot their trap out of frustration and irritation. By RE-ACTING over what she said is COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE.

It will only escalate the situation beyond hope and redemption. Stay away for a while if you have a hot temper. Just tell her honestly and nicely that you need some time to understand her point. Go away for a while after that - get a hold of your emotions. You’re the MAN and a Man has ultimate control over his emotions. That will take a hell lot of practice though. Practice, Practice, Practice and remember to be kind to yourself.

4) Stick to your Principles

A man without principles is like a tree being swayed by the winds. That is not attractive at all. Think of yourself as a Solid Oak or a Giant Pillar of Strength. Every woman would love a strong man who has principles. Enuff said.

5) Be Willing to Change

This may sound confusing because Giaco says to be strongly principled but at the same time be willing to change. “You’re confusing me, Casanova.” I hear you say.

Let me explain… if you don’t change when it goes beyond reasonable doubt that things are wrong. Your old ways of thinking are no longer valid - then adapt and evolve. Nothing is worse than a stubborn man who insists that he’s right all the time. He will also be a bore to talk to, unwilling to have an open-mind and accept good advice. This just reminds me of those fudley-dudley old wigs in the 18th century. They think they are right all the time. That my dear readers, is plain silliness. Like the ostrich that sticks it’s head in the ground. Adapt and Change but always remember what you stand for.

There you go. 5 Quick Tips to work on. It will take a while before you can be a Master at these things. BUT anything is worth it, is always worth fighting for… or in this case, working towards.

How does this tie in to Romancing the Woman?

Your woman has to like what she sees in you first and if you don’t have what she wants… it’s Sayonara, Dud !!

Yours honestly,
Giacomo

Before I start on this post, I humbly apologize for my long absence.

Life in the 21st century is too hectic for me. In the past, we can post a mail and have like a week’s or two grace period… and everything is fine because delivery service is the PITS back then. Heck, if it’s in the rainy season, I could even get away with 3 weeks absence. BUT the times they are changing and I’m sorry. All righty, apologies out of the way.

Let’s talk about Loving a Woman’s Soul.

Have you ever had one of those moments when you did every single possible thing to make your woman Happy? Of course, you have. BUT what did you get in return?

Take a moment and think about it.

If you’re like me. You have a multitude of thoughts and emotions racing through your head.

1) Why doesn’t she love me after all that I’ve done for her?

2) Does she realize how GOOD a Man am I?

3) What the heck is she thinking of, can’t she see that I’m dying?

4) I did so much for you, WHY can’t you show something in return?

5) If this is giving, then I GAVE AWAY too much… I’m not even half the man I used to be.

6) Why can’t you give me a sign and show me that you care?

7) I hate you, you UNGRATEFUL BITCH !!!

I don’t want to go on but you get the drift. A true Casanova is never, ever bothered with such negative self-talk. It’s counter-productive.

If a woman doesn’t appreciate you… perhaps she’s too engrossed in her own world. Or maybe she’s worried about finances, or the boss is giving her a hard time.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

A) The only logical thing you can do in this instance is too keep your mouth shut. Nobody will tell you that your mute if you do so.

B) Just listen emphatically and quietly to her.

C) Don’t make funny quips because it will only make her frustrated with you when she’s spilling out her guts to you.

D) If she says that SHE HATES YOU!!! Don’t take it to heart. It will make you feel better.

E) Constantly remind yourself that you’re a STRONG MAN because that’s what she needs and want.

At the end of it all, please search your heart and know what she means to you. She may be going through a tough period and all she wants is a listening ear.

Don’t get Frustrated.

Don’t get Angry

Stay Calm and Abide Patiently.

Remember the good times whenever POSSIBLE.

Because… eventually, it’s nothing personal.

One last thing…

Remind yourself constantly this - That a Bell that doesn’t sound when being struck is NOT a Bell. It’s a DUD.

So it is, with Love. You need to LOVE her unconditional and accept her for what she IS.

That’s what is called Loving a Woman’s Soul.

2 Words - UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE

If she thinks otherwise… Well, let’s talk about it in the next post.

Giacomo

ps. I promise not to make you wait for 2 weeks.

This is highly opinionated and there are probably many more reasons why… Here’s one of them.

Bad guys have a certain charm - unattainable, evil, wicked, mysterious, and desirable. Somehow, it triggers off sparks and emotions in a woman. What ifs… it’s probably their feminine instincts at work - trying to change that is pretty hard to change.

Perhaps, they see it as a form of purgatory. To suffer for love. It’s a romantic ideal, one which many women are enthralled with. Women who live by ideals either have fairy tale life or suffer really badly for being idealistic.

After they are disappointed over and over again. Hurt for too many times. Some of them might awake and start looking around. I said look around because the most important thing is to know what they want in the first place. It takes a lot of honesty for them to come to terms with what they want, what’s acceptable, what’s not.

It’s the same for men. Too many men are thinking with the wrong head… If you can read their thoughts “It’s… Oooh… she’s got a Hot Bod.” or “She must be fantastic in bed.” Since this post is not about men… I’ll stop here

When a woman is in pain and hurting. Chances are they are looking for approval from someone, anybody for that matter to tell them that they are still desirable and not past their expiry dates. That’s what I’ve observed. Maybe they just want to salvage whatever’s left of their dignity… Maybe they self-esteem is so crushed from yet… another failed relationship that they crave for attention. Any attention is fine, just to keep their loneliness at bay. How strange is that, and how meaningless when it’s taken in perspective.

They shouldn’t settle for less. Chances are that they are looking at the wrong types. Men who are bad and out to make use of women. Those men without integrity, nor a shred of conscience in them. Such men will be themselves. There’s always a willing women for them. Let’s not talk about them, it’s making me itch and not in a good way.

Why would anyone be a man who will prey on another’s weakness and go for a quick wam-bam-thanks-ma’am. It doesn’t take much effort. Weak and heartbroken women are easy prey.

Casanova could do that for a few life times if that’s the choice but I wouldn’t be worth my Certified Ladies Man titles if I were to do so. Perhaps, Ye’ Ruthless Cad will be more descriptive and fitting.

Nah, easy prey is too boring… and not much of a challenge.

What good is a ladies man if he doesn’t push himself as hard and as far as he could go? It’s like tasting salt and it has lost it’s saltiness. Useless!

Do you know what really motivates me?

It’s to fight the unbeatable foe and spit over their dead body when the fight is over.

Or… to charm the most hardened heart of a woman, the heart of an ice maiden and melt it like a snowball on a hot summer’s day. Despite, me having a rotten reputation for being flirt and someone all mothers warn their daughters about. These mothers are the same ones who fall under my charm. What can I say? I’m such an egoistic bast*rd… It’s so ironic that I find it amusing.

So… what am I driving at?

This I learned from Google - Do not be evil. It may be fun and easy to do so but it’s nothing to be proud of. It only reminds me of two pieces of flesh slapping against one another, just exactly the same way that bunnies go about it.

There’s just no heart at all. To be a true romantic guy - you have to romance with your heart and soul. Not seeking for cheap thrills and notching the number of women bonked on your bedposts. It could be fun but take it from me, a veteran who have charmed 122 women. At the end of the day… if there’s no love involved, I’m no better than an animal.

Perhaps, it’s just me who thinks this way. But…

WHAT THE HECK!!!

I’m a nurturing romantic.  Nah… don’t you dare laugh… or I’m so going to reach out from your screen and give a BIG SMOOCHIE on yer face.

Mr Cassie

ps. The moral of the story is…

If you want to be BAD, be really BAD…
OR be like what Seth Godin sez… BE REMARKABLE!!! Or be a Purple COW.
Anything BUT a Lesser Man - although you might lucky sometimes.  LOL